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Santa and Jay



We went to the Fort Hood PX to shop with Mom (Emmie) and Santa was there.  So we weren't prepared with a cute outfit for Jay but we didn't have stand in line either and 2 5x7 prints were only $14.  So a win I think. 
Jay wasn't too keen to sit on Santa's lap but a sticker at least occupied him a bit.  He kept trying to give the sticker back to Santa.  Great looking Santa though eh?  Not bad.  Thanks Post Exchange.  :)

UNICEF's effective attack on inter-country adoption | Washington Times

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Tuesday, November 30, 2010 - The Red Thread: An Adoptive Family Forum by Andrea Poe

NEW YORK, N.Y. — UNICEF has undergone worldwide scrutiny in regard to its position on inter-country adoption.  And for good reason.   Its position that a child’s birthplace and culture is superior to a stable home in any other place or culture has had dire consequences on some adoptees around the world.
In recent months there’s been some effort on the part of UNICEF to temper some earlier pronouncements, but the fact remains that the organization is fundamentally misguided when it comes to inter-country adoption.
There’s a disconnect between UNICEF’s position and the welfare of children. (Photo: Andrea Poe)
There’s a disconnect between UNICEF’s position and the welfare of children. (Photo: Andrea Poe)
UNICEF claims that international adoption robs children of their heritage and culture.  The organization’s has staked out a firm position: children must be given to birth parents, regardless of the circumstance.  In lieu of that, children should go to extended family.  Next, to his or her “community.”  Finally, domestic adoption should be explored.  Inter-country adoption is “one of a range of options” according to UNCEF and should be turned to as a last resort.  The organization goes so far as to claim that international adoption must be “subsidiary” to in-country adoption, at all costs.
UNICEF declares that inter-country adoption “is not as a good as being raised in their families of origin but better than staying in orphanages.”  That would make sense if the world was a perfect place and this Polly Anna viewpoint had any basis in reality.  But that’s not the world, nor is it the reality of millions of orphans around the world.  Shared DNA does not make for the best families, contrary to UNICEF’s claims.  Children wind up eligible for adoption for myriad reasons, ranging from poverty to abuse to neglect.
In some cases, UNICEF’s positions border on racist.  In a position paper on inter-country adoption the organization states, that every effort should be made to keep a child “within his ethnic group.”  Huh?  Some vague notion about cultural ties should trump the basic human rights of children?  For what end UNICEF does not say.
There’s a disconnect between UNICEF’s position and the welfare of children.  Somewhere along the way the behemoth organization lost track of advocating for children and began abstracting the issue.
You can even hear it in the language used in the organization’s Innocenti Digest entitled “Impact of International Legal Standards and the Safeguards of The Best interest of the Child in Domestic and Intercountry Adoption,” where “different stakeholders” in intercountry adoption are mentioned.   Stakeholders?  What about the children?
To promote its agenda, UNICEF points out that abuses have taken place with inter-country adoptions.  They are right.  They have.  Just as they have and do with domestic adoptions, which UNICEF advocates. The Hague Convention was developed to provide guidelines for inter-country adoption with the hope of reducing abuses of the system and reducing the risk for child trafficking and profiteering from orphans.  This issue so often raised by UNICEF is a canard.  C’mon.  Who isn’t against corruption and abuse?
What’s so disappointing about UNICEF’s position is that for years the organization has been a leader in child welfare around the world.  The work that they do to help feed and immunize children is unimpeachable.  And perhaps this is the problem.  The organization’s success in this area has jaundiced UNICEF’s view on adoption.
Arbitrary national borders on a map have become a greater priority to UNICEF than the complicated issues of placing children with safe, loving families wherever those families may be.
UNICEF has repeatedly stated that it prefers the expansion of social welfare programs for poor families within countries, so that children can stay in kinship groups.  The practical outcome has been that unparented children are being denied the best homes so that UNICEF can score cheap points in the international arena about the insufficient aid poor countries receive.  The pawns here are the children.
Harvard Law School’s Elizabeth Bartholet, an adoptive parent herself and a well-regarded child advocate, has publicly stated that “international adoption is under siege,” largely because of UNICEF’s unrelenting assault on inter-country adoption.
In Batholet’s paper International Adoption: The Human Rights Position she writes, “Preferences for what UNICEF calls permanent family or foster care [in country] are dangerous. UNICEF’s argument is that such care could preserve children’s birth and national heritage links. But foster care doesn’t exist as a meaningful option in most sending countries – unparented children are instead relegated to orphanages. UNICEF wants foster care expanded, but denying children adoptive homes now because in the future foster care might exist is unfair to existing children.”
The influence of UNICEF on the world community cannot be overstated.  It has used its reputation as a leader in children welfare to lobby countries, including the United States, to reduce the number of inter-country adoptions.  The results have had dire consequences for children around the world.  International adoptions have plummeted and most countries are now closed to American parents.
The dark and highly influential shadow that UNICEF has cast on intercountry adoption has left millions of children around the world stranded, without homes and without hope.

[From the blogger:  Please consider this article next time you are asked to support UNICEF.  There are lots of charities to support children around the world, all in keeping to their best interests.  I believe this includes supporting the blessings of a loving and supportive inter-country adoption.]

Happy Family Day

Also known as Gotcha Day.
One year ago today our lives changed for the better. We hope Jay's did too!

Minus 10 years

I had the worse scare of my life about 8:15pm on Tuesday evening.  Jay and I spent a few days at my folks' house and we were just about ready to go (Pete was out of town for work).  Jay was washed up and in his footed PJs.  My mom, Jay and myself were headed to the living room.  Jay stepped down but never had balance and went head first into the corner of the brick fireplace.  (Just writing that sends chills back down my back and my stomach to drop).  I was in the motion to grab him when I saw him lean but he's too fast.  I grabbed him up and in one split second I saw the damage, ran to the kitchen with his head securely against my shoulder.  I grabbed the kitchen towel and put it on the wound and prayed while Jay screamed.  I knew it was bad and told dad to call 911 (about 5 times).  Mom had to help me keep the rag on his head and keep him from wiggling loose.  He's so strong and he was so scared and upset and surely it hurt.  We walked outside with him where the air was cooler to be sure he didn't go to sleep.  As the EMS arrived he got quiet and watched the lights.  The EMS arrived fast (answered prayer) and took a look at him and yup they agreed he needed to go to the ER via lights and sirens.  They put him on a back-board in case the fall damaged his neck.  They were checking his vitals to be sure his pupils were responding and he was fully conscience.  Once he was strapped to the board they took the towel off and put some square gauze and taped it across his head.  He actually started to calm down and I was singing "Itsy Bitsy Spider" about 100 times.  Upon arrival at Metroplex in Killeen they got him out of the bus and he loved when the made the gurney go up.  He was enjoying the short walk into the building, up a short ramp and when the door automatically opened and he saw the bright hospital lights he actually started laughing (answered prayer).  Everyone got a kick out of that. 
I'll make the rest of this a bit shorter...he was accessed, a CT scan of his head and neck were done and they came back clear (negative).  After that they could take him off the board and I could hold him until they came back to do the stitches.  It was a while as they made final review of the CT scans and prepped.  He was given Tylenol with Codeine and eventually got very quiet and almost asleep (they had already put gauze with Lidocaine on the gash).  Except he wouldn't sleep.  The doctor came to do the stitches.   He was wrapped up and that's when I stepped out.  I couldn't stand to hear him him holler.  But he did really good, screamed mostly because he was being held down and they put a drape over his face.
Sweet Jay received 10 dis-solvable stitches inside the wound to close it and 9 regular on the outside to close the skin. They are to come out in 4-5 days (Sat or Sun) so we'll take him over the Dell Children's this weekend and have them removed.  They said if they stay in longer they might leave the little railroad tracks.  The doctor said it should heal up fine in a couple of weeks and eventually it will heal completely leaving little or no scar (answered prayer).
Ha ha for this getting shorter.....
Two days later and Jay is doing great.  He was doing great the next morning.  For him it's like it never happened but for me I'll never forget it.  I've shaved off 10 years of my life because of that incident.  There wasn't any blood on the carpet (I'm quick too) and none on Jay's cute PJs.  It was all on the sweater I was wearing and mom got that out with peroxide.  So there is little evidence it ever happened except for those stitches. 
I thank God for listening to my prayer and bringing Jay through this.  God is good and I'm grateful.

PS: Last night Pete was reminded by his mother of a similar incident involving him and stitches in the forehead.   Like father, like son.

Passport

Jay's passport came in the mail today. Our final social worker visit is this month. We're almost done with the interminable paperwork. Nov 30th is our one year anniversary. Amazing and incredible. Thank you for being on this journey with us.

Halloween Saturday

Here are some photos if Jay and I enjoying the neighborhood Halloween carnival.
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First folder Halloween. It's awesome.
Will add more after Jay trick or treats with his cousin Garrett.

Alexa
...ain't got no time to waste, we got too much life to taste. (Sent via iPhone)

Jay officially walking

Well he's doing it! He's walking, doesn't want to hold my hand anymore. The proof of all this is in the bruises. Forehead, chin and somehow a scratch on his cheek. He even stood up twice by himself at park, without pulling up on me or something else. I think he's got it!! Big boy.

Alexa
...ain't got no time to waste, we got too much life to taste. (Sent via iPhone)

I'm Alexa, Pete and I have been married for 12 years (at time of adoption) and live in Austin, TX. This blog is for personal use only and any information contained within is mine. Should you share this information, it is at your own risk. Otherwise please enjoy this journey with us.
 
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